A few weeks ago, I wrote a blog called How to be an Amazing Bridesmaid or Groomsman. It guides wedding party members on how to act, what’s expected of them, and why they’re super important to the whole wedding. Now it’s time to turn the tables and give brides & grooms tools to lead their wedding party!
This blog is for YOU if…
Let’s do this! ⬇️
Your wedding party members should be YOUR PEOPLE. They’re your best friends who you couldn’t imagine not standing beside you while you get married.
I won’t tell you how many people to choose. That’s that’s totally up to you. But if you find yourself with a list of 18 girls, and deciding whether to include your cousin’s friend from college, you’ll want to narrow that list down. 😂Trust me. Each person means two more helping hands, but also the potential for more stress.
If you’re worried about two people not getting along (I mean REALLY fighting), don’t include them.
If you’re worried about someone’s feelings getting hurt by not being included, consider giving them another role to play, like being an usher.
Ok, you have your people! 🥳Now what?
Y’all, it’s time for my favorite part of this whole post! If you remember nothing else but implement this tip, you’ll still be better off.
Create a Wedding Party Facebook Group. Not a group chat over text, a Facebook Group. Here’s why:
These things may seem nit-picky, but when you’ve been planning for 8 months, and you have 11 vendors + 25 spreadsheets + 3 to-do lists + 65 email chains + 4 separate group texts… you’ll want to simplify EVERYTHING possible.
A step-by-step guide to creating your Wedding Party Facebook Group:
Seriously… make a Facebook Group! Especially if you have a large wedding party!
As the bride & groom, you’re the mutual friend to everyone. It’s your job to initiate connection between your bridesmaids & groomsmen who don’t know each other.
Events that could help everyone get to know each other:
Don’t leave your wedding party guessing, especially when it comes to their own budgets. Little expenses add up quickly, so keep track of how much they’re actually spending.
Will the bridesmaids pay for their own dresses? Should they do their own hair and makeup? Will the groomsmen need to rent shoes that match?
Do you want to have a bachelorette party? Do you want to have a bridal shower? Do you expect them to pay for it?
They’ll probably be happy with whatever you decide to do, as long as you respect their budgets and give them enough time to plan ahead.
If you have the feeling some of your wedding party members don’t know what they’re supposed to be doing, point them in the direction of this blog 👉 How to be an Amazing Bridesmaid or Groomsman >
While it’s an honor for them to be included in your group, they’ve also agreed to spend their own time and money on your wedding.
Show them that you appreciate the sacrifices they’re making. Be flexible with dates, and remember that they might have busy schedules. Give them choices when possible. Make sure they’re happy and feel included in the group. Say “thank you”. Surprise them with a handwritten card and/or gift at some point along the way.
Brides, give your whole wedding party this information:
Your wedding day is finally here. 😍 At this point, don’t worry about sticking to the timeline. Don’t worry about the decorations being perfect. Don’t you worry ’bout a thing 🎶 (Now that will be stuck in your head 😉).
You’ve done the hard work, set everything in motion, and it’s time for you to have FUN! Your wedding party will have fun too, but they’ll also take on extra responsibilities to make sure YOU have an amazing time. Bridesmaids & groomsmen, ya gotta read this if you’re not sure what I’m talking about here.
All small tasks left to be checked off the to-do list should be delegated to anyone other than the bride & groom.
Tasks that can be delegated to your bridesmaids & groomsmen:
Remember to delegate these tasks before your wedding day.
You made it! I know that was long, but now you know how to lead your wedding party so so so well! If you liked this post or you have a funny story about being in a wedding party, leave me a comment below!